“Some of them had loved her for years. They had every recording she ever made. They kept a notebook and wrote down every place they had seen her, listing the music, the names of the cast, the conductor. There were others there that night who had not heard her name, who would have said, if asked, that opera was a collection of nonsensical cat screechings, that they would much rather pass three hours in a dentist’s chair. These were the ones who wept openly now, the ones who had been so mistaken.”
“He had seen eighteen performances featuring Roxane Coss. The first was a lucky coincidence, the other times he went to the city where she would be, creating business to take him there. He saw La Sonnambula three nights in a row. He had never sought her out or made himself to be anything more than any other member of the audience. He did not assume his appreciation for her talent exceeded anyone else’s. He was more inclined to believe only a fool would not feel about her exactly how he felt. There was nothing more to want than the privilege to sit and listen.” from Bel Canto, by Anne Pratchett
Friday, October 5, 2012
Saturday, September 15, 2012
Excited (School)
I'm feeling very overwhelmed excited to be going back to graduate school to work on my degree in counseling. I like being a student, but find I need more coffee time to learn and study things than I did when I was younger. I need to become less obsessed with Tim Minchin more disciplined in doing my homework. Not only will I be practicing counseling skills, I will be observing counseling, and going to counseling myself, to experience the process as a client and as an opportunity for working through my own fucked up shit growth. So here's to new beginnings for me, and here's a funny video about therapy-
Monday, August 20, 2012
"Hey JC, You're Alright By Me"- in which we travel thousands of miles to see a play we might find racist
An American, an Israeli, and some Brits walk into a bar in
Nottingham…. There’s no punch line (yet) because it hasn’t happened yet. This
may well happen when I go meet my friend, Ori, who is from Israel, and
we go to see Jesus Christ Superstar in England. We’ve purchased our tickets
months in advance, and have been excitedly planning our trip. In our
anticipation about the show, we’ve been discussing many aspects, but one that
is intriguing to us is that the play can be viewed as anti-Jewish.
In my discussions with Ori, I find that a lot of notions ingrained from my WASP upbringing, that I hadn’t even realized were biased, are essentially…ummm…wrong. First of all, in our discussions, I was using the term
“anti-Semitic”. Ori has corrected me a couple of times, and I will now try to
use the term “anti-Jewish”. Secondly, growing up in the Bible-belt here, when
we talk about something in the New Testament, we just say, “In the Bible”. This
has led to some amusing exchanges, as Ori and I try to discuss whether
something is in the Bible or not, if I am referring to the New Testament as the
Bible. So I will try to say New Testament, when we are talking about…umm, yeah,
the New Testament. Which is probably what we will be talking about, given the
subject matter of the musical.
Ori and I have both watched the 1973 film version of Jesus
Christ Superstar, but not the 2000 version.
I think although Ori finds the original lyrics troublesome, she felt
especially offended by the portrayal of the Jewish clerics and the Jewish
masses in the film. I will let her elaborate more.
So, welcome, my first guest blogger, Ori! We have discussed
a bit here and there about Ori’s reactions after seeing the film, and have
realized that this is an important and interesting topic. I am going to make a
list of questions or perhaps brief comments, and Ori can elaborate about her
perspective and conclusions, and add any additional comments, or even questions
for …umm…whoever may read this post, (maybe those Brits in the joke which
hasn’t happened yet).
Directed to Ori:
- Do you want to include any background about yourself? I mentioned you are from Israel. Anything else? If not, that’s OK, of course.
- Will you discuss the term "anti-Jewish", as opposed to "anti-Semitic"?
- You have mentioned that when you first saw the film, you had an initial gut reaction about the racism in it that was later confirmed for you by reading other people’s similar opinions. Will you elaborate on why you feel the film is racist, and your feelings of realizing that others feel this way too?
- One of my reactions to hearing you say that the Jewish clerics were portrayed negatively was, “Well, that is how they were portrayed in the New Testament. It’s not the play’s fault.” Almost immediately, I realized the inherent bias I am showing there. First of all, even though I am no longer Christian, I realize I still hold this assumption that the New Testament is a more or less a historically accurate (albeit embellished with supernaturalism) telling of events. I had NEVER thought about how the New Testament itself can be read as anti-Jewish, and its portrayals may not be at all accurate in many ways. (I’m being stupid, but honest.)
- Do you find the New Testament to be anti-Jewish? Are there Jewish versions of the Christ story? How would you prefer the clerics and the crowds in JCS be portrayed?
- You have said the film is especially offensive, but that the racism is embedded in the lyrics. I found a quote by Tim Rice, discussing how he wrote Judas:
He did what he did, not because he was basically evil, but because he was intelligent. He could see Christ becoming something he considered harmful to the Jews. Judas felt that they been persecuted enough. As far as what Christ was saying, general principles of how human beings should live together – Judas approved of this. What Judas was worried about was that as Christ got bigger and bigger and more popular, people began switching their attentions from what Christ was saying to Christ himself. They were saying that Jesus is God, here is the new Messiah, and Judas was terrified because, a.) he didn’t agree with it – he thought Christ was getting out of control and it was affecting Him, and b.) Judas reckoned that if the movement got too big and people began worshipping Christ as a god, the Romans who were occupying Israel would come down and clobber them. – Superstar lyricist Tim Rice source- Do you want to include any background about yourself? I mentioned you are from Israel. Anything else? If not, that’s OK, of course.
- Will you discuss the term "anti-Jewish", as opposed to "anti-Semitic"?
- You have mentioned that when you first saw the film, you had an initial gut reaction about the racism in it that was later confirmed for you by reading other people’s similar opinions. Will you elaborate on why you feel the film is racist, and your feelings of realizing that others feel this way too?
- One of my reactions to hearing you say that the Jewish clerics were portrayed negatively was, “Well, that is how they were portrayed in the New Testament. It’s not the play’s fault.” Almost immediately, I realized the inherent bias I am showing there. First of all, even though I am no longer Christian, I realize I still hold this assumption that the New Testament is a more or less a historically accurate (albeit embellished with supernaturalism) telling of events. I had NEVER thought about how the New Testament itself can be read as anti-Jewish, and its portrayals may not be at all accurate in many ways. (I’m being stupid, but honest.)
- Do you find the New Testament to be anti-Jewish? Are there Jewish versions of the Christ story? How would you prefer the clerics and the crowds in JCS be portrayed?
- You have said the film is especially offensive, but that the racism is embedded in the lyrics. I found a quote by Tim Rice, discussing how he wrote Judas:
When I read this, I got the impression that Tim Rice, at
least here, at least in this one aspect of his intentions for Judas, wanted to
make Judas protective of the Jews. Does that make his lyrics less offensive at
all?
-I’ve read three complaints, in this article, and other places that some consider JCS blasphemous, some consider it anti-black, and some consider it anti-Jewish? Do you have any comments about the first of those two?
- Is there anything else you want to add, or discuss?
-I’ve read three complaints, in this article, and other places that some consider JCS blasphemous, some consider it anti-black, and some consider it anti-Jewish? Do you have any comments about the first of those two?
- Is there anything else you want to add, or discuss?
Ori's Response
First of all, I want to thank you for letting me be a part
of this post. The questions are perfect. I assume the subject was thoroughly
discussed in 1973, but I wasn't alive then, so I'm very happy I get to discuss
it now. OK, I'll dive in.
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I'm glad you asked about background, because I feel I need to
provide some anyway, and you just gave me an excuse.
I was born and raised Jewish in Israel (which is the perfect excuse for my poor English and lack of eloquence. I hope I can be coherent enough). I was a child of two Holocaust babies (which might explain my enhanced sensitivity to this issue). My mother was very religious and forced the entire family to do silly things like pray, eat kosher food etc.
I was always secular. I'd tease my mother about her ridiculous ways even as a small child, while trying to keep a balance between my mocking and being given up for adoption.
I think the most important thing I
can say is that everything I will say from now on is personal: I'm not a
rabbi or scholar of religion, and not an authority on anything. Whatever
opinions or thoughts I express are representative of me alone (even if I've
seen a lot of them expressed before by others).
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The "anti-Semitic" vs. the
"anti-Jewish" thing. That's my own fussiness getting in the way.
Wikipedia may not be the most accurate source, but its definition of the term
"Semitic" is sufficient for this discussion: "The term Semite means a member of any of various ancient and modern Semitic-speaking peoples originating in southwestern Asia, including; Akkadians (Assyrians and Babylonians), Eblaites, Ugarites, Canaanites, Phoenicians (including Carthaginians), Hebrews (Israelites, Judeans and Samaritans), Ahlamu, Arameans, Chaldeans, Amorites, Moabites, Edomites, Hyksos, Arabs, Nabateans, Maganites, Shebans, Sutu, Ubarites, Dilmunites, Bahranis, Maltese, Mandaeans, Sabians, Syriacs, Mhallami, Amalekites and Ethiopian Semites." I have no idea how this term came to mean
"anti-Jewish". Since "anti-Semitic" is the commonly used
term, we can use it. It just bothers me in the same way that hearing Tim
combine his Latin and Greek words bothers me. I can live with it, and I'm not
really that anal about it, but it's just not accurate.
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Two questions for the price of
one. I'll start with the one that asks why I think the film is racist. In order
to respond to that I need to define how I see "anti-Semitism" (or
"anti-Jewism"). In an article about the character of the Jew over the
centuries, a history professor (whose name I can't add here because I can't find how he spells it in English anywhere) explains that the church isolated the character
of the Jew and represented the Jew as a demon; a diabolic devilish evil entity.
According to him, the church claimed the Jew embodies evil forces and must not
be placed among the "good" creatures of the world. Here's a link, if you can read Hebrew (or just feel like staring at some Hebrew scribbling): source
The
Hebrew version of Wikipedia which talks of the character of the Jew in Nazi
propaganda was edited and some parts didn't make it into the English
translation. According to Wikipedia, among other representations of the Jews,
they were seen as parasites, pests, long nosed rodents (rats, for example). In
caricatures drawn in the 1940's they are represented with a curved nose, and
described as greedy murderous rapists. See Der ewige Jude, "The Eternal Jew" or "The Wandering Jew".
(Cover of the film "The Eternal Jew", released in 1940)
These tales, by the way, are reinforced by my grandparents and other holocaust survivors. I apologize for only drawing on Hebrew sources; sources are not as easy to find in English. You'll just have to trust me, or not.
I hope this clears the matter of why I think the film is racist. Jesus' followers aren't Jews. They're Christians. The only actual Jews you see in the film are the clerics. The very sexy clerics (I doubt the real clerics had abs like the movie clerics, but I'm not complaining). You see a group of clerics, two of which get a prime spot in front of the cameras; the others just repeat what the front two are saying. The "head of the order" - tall and funny-hatted with the deep voice, and the shorter, lean, thin-voiced "counselor", whispering his opinions and advice in the ear of the "head guy". I don't even know where to begin. These characters are so stereotypical and caricaturesque it makes me want to puke. The thing that hits home for me, and removes any doubt from my mind is the depiction of the "counselor" character with long narrow snake-like hat and conniving expressions, his low voice and slithery secretive behavior. The Jews in the film come up with a secret plan to destroy Jesus, who is infringing on their territory, (while they plan, the "head guy" says to his little assistant "we need a more permanent solution". Sound familiar?) The clerics pay Judas for his help. They don't just pay. They pay well. Why? Because they can. Because they have the money to pay for it.
These scenes in which the Jews are plotting and planning a murder are reminiscent of all those movies where the powerful king has an evil counselor bending his ear and controlling him. The counselor is always the evil demonic character who must die or be imprisoned by the end of the film in order to reach a happy end.
While I
was looking through those scenes in search of a good image to add to the post,
I noticed a subtle light shift going through the scene. When the "head
guy" speaks and the "counselor" listens the faces are lit up and
all expressions are visible. When the little guy opens his mouth, the scene
becomes much darker. The scene is on YouTube here, in case you want to check it
out:
To sum up, according to the film, what are
the Jews? Rats. Snakes. Conniving plotters, murderers, power thirsty and fame
hungry. It reminded me of all those Nazi newspaper caricatures I've seen in the
Yad VaShem Museum. It actually physically hurt.
Now for the second part of the question. Whenever I have any thought or opinion, I always assume it's just me, and keep it to myself, the way a minority of one would. I felt very strongly about this subject, but said nothing, until Mary posted an article that reaffirmed my views. This is the reason I feel comfortable enough to do this post thing.
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When we were discussing this
issue and you said this is how Jews are portrayed in the New Testament, I was
greatly surprised. I confess, I have never read the New Testament, and I didn't
know it went back that far. Judaism has a lot of sects (or groups, or currents,
I don't know what to call them), and each has its own version of religion.
Being secular and atheist I don't know that much about versions of the Jesus
story, aside from what being a part of a religious family and spending a year
in a religious school could teach me. As far as I know, for Jews the bible ends
at the end of the first part. The Jesus story doesn’t exist. In fact, I'm
pretty sure in most religious communities here it's forbidden (as is the
Qur'an).
I wouldn't be so harsh on the New Testament for being a racist book. It was written as a sequel to the Jewish bible, and that book has racism written right into it. I've known quite a few religious Jews who are wise, enlightened, kind… and very racist, as a result of the bible. And the needle on the offensive meter goes to 100%…
To clarify: I work for an office that serves only the religious market, and a lot of the people I work with are wonderful people. However, they occasionally make the most racist comments in a very offhand way; as if they were absolute truths everyone has already acknowledged. I'm going to get killed over this, aren't I?
As for how I'd like them to be portrayed – I have no idea. Probably less caricature-like. How would you like them to be portrayed?
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About the lyrics: I don't think
the lyrics themselves are racist. Had I just heard the soundtrack, I would have
had no problem with it. But having seen the film, I couldn't think of any way
to represent it which isn't extremely racist. I honestly hope I’m completely
visionless and the new production will not be racist at all, but I have strong
doubts about that.
I think having a black Judas (am I allowed to use "black"? I don't mean to be offensive) can be seen as an anti-black thing. I love the character. I don't think they could have made Judas look any better than he did (even if he seemed a bit jealous of Jesus' success to me). Still, in spite of how "good" he is in the film, historically his character is the infinite backstabbing traitor no matter how you portray him. I think it doesn't matter how Judas is played, it's always going to seem to some people as an anti-whatever the person who played Judas was (so I suppose in this new production it'll be seen as anti-young white wealthy male. I don't think there's a term for that. White-ism?).
I have to say, before I'm
remembered as the most negative person in the world by anyone reading this post
that I can't see a way in which this musical can be completely without racism,
due to the story it's based on. Besides that, I think the film is a
masterpiece, I love the music, and I'm completely addicted to the soundtrack.
Sorry for going on so long (and being offensive). I can't wait for the joke to
happen; I know it'll be fun and funny.
Ori, I think your English is impressive, and is more
eloquent than many native speakers (myself included)! I’m glad you are willing
to write such a comprehensive explanation of your views! I only have minor
disagreements, and those may be simply based on my ignorance. First, I thought
that the masses of followers in the movie were considered Jews, and only Jesus’
apostles or close friends were considered Christians. I’m not sure if that is
because they called Jesus “king of the Jews”, or if I just read that in a movie
synopsis somewhere. Either way, it is
largely irrelevant, except that some people think the “masses” were considered
fickle, first showering Jesus with affection, then later turning on him. But
that seems to be other people’s complaint, not yours.
I see what you are saying about the black Judas, but I do
not think casting a black actor for Judas was racist or even a bad idea. (I
don’t think it’s offensive to say “black”, especially when the article we are
referring to used the term “black”.) I think we should not even notice the skin
color of the actor. Can you imagine if they had intentionally NOT made Judas
black? If they had said, “Carl, nailed it. Your voice is incredible and you
show such depth of character and would be perfect for this role, but we’re not
going to have a black Judas.” THAT would be racist. Also, given that Judas is
really the protagonist here, I think we should definitely try to move beyond
any accusations of casting the black man as the evil character.
The things that interest me the most about your post, are
the ways in which racism from all angles may be all around us, and we don’t
even notice it, be it in the remarks of your coworkers, or in a sacred text, or
in songs or in this film. The fact that
we don’t notice them isn’t just indicative of our ignorance or lack of
sensitivity, it is a telling sign that what is imperceptible to some may be
outright painful to others. When someone tells me something is hurtful, I want
to be more aware of it now, even if I hadn’t noticed it before, and hope to not
do things to contribute to that hurt. I was going to say it is also a way of
saying the offended person is always right, but I don’t think this is an issue
of right or wrong and it it’s not something that can be argued and
intellectualized. It’s just an issue of empathy, and I thank you for helping me
understand your feelings.
I'm never confident about my level of
English around native English speakers. I doubt I'll ever get over that, but
I'm glad this arrangement seems to have worked (and glad you think it's
impressive. Thank you).
Regarding the masses: they started out mostly Jewish, but in the end they weren't. Since I can't back my understanding of the story with any real authority, I won't go into it. Suffice it to say - they were Jewish in the beginning (so was Jesus), and they didn't end up as a current of Judaism, but rather a completely separate religion.
I agree with you that denying someone work because they're black is obviously racist, and I don't think they were anti-black when they chose him for the part. I just think it can easily be seen as anti-black by some people who aren't us.
I completely agree with your statement about offensiveness. It's not about who's right or wrong, it's about how the people we communicate with feel about what we're saying, and how we choose to deal with it. If we don't want to offend people, we won't use certain words that offend them (or we will use those words, if we don't mind offending them so much).
Anyway, thank you for this invitation to co-post with you. I must admit I've never done anything like this before (I have an obscure blog somewhere, but I've never written anything opinionated in it. It was mostly for silly prose or trip updates), and I'm feeling a little afraid of what might happen as a result of some of the things I wrote. I'm sure everything will be ok, though.
This was fun we should do it again sometime.
Regarding the masses: they started out mostly Jewish, but in the end they weren't. Since I can't back my understanding of the story with any real authority, I won't go into it. Suffice it to say - they were Jewish in the beginning (so was Jesus), and they didn't end up as a current of Judaism, but rather a completely separate religion.
I agree with you that denying someone work because they're black is obviously racist, and I don't think they were anti-black when they chose him for the part. I just think it can easily be seen as anti-black by some people who aren't us.
I completely agree with your statement about offensiveness. It's not about who's right or wrong, it's about how the people we communicate with feel about what we're saying, and how we choose to deal with it. If we don't want to offend people, we won't use certain words that offend them (or we will use those words, if we don't mind offending them so much).
Anyway, thank you for this invitation to co-post with you. I must admit I've never done anything like this before (I have an obscure blog somewhere, but I've never written anything opinionated in it. It was mostly for silly prose or trip updates), and I'm feeling a little afraid of what might happen as a result of some of the things I wrote. I'm sure everything will be ok, though.
This was fun we should do it again sometime.
If you're still with us, thanks for reading! Ori and I would love to hear thoughts on this subject and continue this discussion. Leave comments!! Big thanks to our friend, Cyn, for proofreading this for us, and helping us both with our less-than-perfect English.
Saturday, August 18, 2012
On Being Religious AND Secular (and maybe too concerned about labels)
I’ve been thinking about semantics lately, and the words
“secularist” and “religious”. I’ve been
wondering if I am living in some sort of dichotomy or false dichotomy. Can I be
religious and secularist (or is it just secular?) at the same time? Yes, of course I can, but how do I explain
that, especially when I think most people equate the word “secular” with
“non-religious”?
Secular doesn’t just refer to non-religious. The AmericanHeritage Dictionary offers the deifinition, “Relating to or advocating secularism”. Secularism, in turn, defined by the same source is “The view
that religious considerations should be excluded from civil affairs or public
education.”
UUs
definitively support secularism. We even have a statement on the matter (of
course)-
Religion and State
The
Unitarian Universalist Association (UUA) has long expressed our support of the
separation of church and state in relation to public education, partisan
politics, free exercise and religious pluralism. For this reason, the UUA works
to ensure that federal dollars are not used to fund religious discrimination,
to combat government endorsement of religious beliefs, and to ensure freedom of
religious expression.
Tim Minchin (somewhat) recently tweeted a couple videos
about secularism and humanism. He is in the humanism one. The secularism one
has a lot relating to British government, but I love that within the first
minute, there is a thorough explanation of secularism as we UUs use it, AND it
then clarifies that it benefits both the religious and non-religious and should
be supported by atheists and believers alike, showing these various terms-
I love seeing the term “religious atheist” there. I
recently changed my blog description to describe myself that way, and I worried
I was making up some crazy term that no one would understand.
If you are interested in understanding more about
secularism and humanism, these videos are good introductions or good summaries
to share. Mary- the Universalist Unitarian Secular Humanist Religious Atheist
Secularism-Humanism (with Tim Minchin)-
Monday, June 18, 2012
One Year Timiversary; I Think I'll Just Keep Swimming Down down down
It has been one year since the first time I saw Tim Minchin
live. What a journey this has been. I’ve lost one (sort of) friend. I’ve gained
many many more friends. Not that numbers matter when it comes to friends, but I’m
really enjoying the online and in-person interactions with fellow Tim
fans. I’ve gained hours of laughter with
my family. I’ve gained lots of discussion with my church family. I’ve gained adventures and anticipation.
So, in the course of this year, I’ve seen Tim perform twice
in Chicago , once in St. Louis ,
and once in Washington D.C. My current plans are now taking me to ENGLAND !!! In
October, Ethan and I are going to see Jesus Christ Superstar, starring Tim
Minchin as Judas, in Nottingham .
Then we are seeing Matilda the Musical.
We are meeting a friend from Israel
and staying with friends in Rugby . I think
this has been the happiest year of my life, and I cannot wait for what the
future holds. There are worse addictions. I love being hooked. I’m drowned.
Friday, April 27, 2012
Whiny Rant about attempts at atheist activism
The atheists say, “Come out! We need numbers to get more numbers, to show the atheists in hiding they’re not alone. We’re nearing the critical mass, when so many people are coming out that it will soon be no big deal to come out. Come out! Join us! If you are an atheist, use the name atheist.”
I saw oppression and injustice. Death threats against Jessica Ahlquist. Public polls saying people won’t vote for an atheist, people saying rapists are most likely to be atheist, hateful rhetoric, discrimination in the Boy Scouts and the military.
I’ve been atheist for twenty years. I haven’t hidden it, but I haven’t gone around announcing it either. The atheist activists had me convinced that it was time for people like me to speak up, to join the ranks, take a stand, and make a difference.
I started saying it more, posting facebook posts and Tweets and talking about it at church. I lost some friends. Some family relationships are strained. A woman in my community started talking badly about me to my coworkers and parents of my students. My resolve grew stronger. Now I was experiencing firsthand this atheophobia. “THIS. THIS is why we need to come out”, I thought.
I tried to be even more active. I started talking up the Reason Rally, trying to recruit people from my church to go. I painted A’s on my toes.
I went to the Reason Rally and made my photos public on Facebook. I loved the swelling of pride and feeling like we were swelling in numbers after this national event. I posted my picture on Facebook for “Ask an Atheist Day”, and had a conversation with over 150 comments.
I have dabbled in trying to join atheist discussions on blogs and message boards, and inevitably, that other aspect of my religious identity comes up. The UU part. The accepting part, the part that is not willing to “ridicule with contempt”, the part that still wants to see the good aspects of religions and the good people who practice them, the part that believes interfaith dialogue is essential in the world we live in today.
You know what? I feel less than welcome sometimes with the atheist activists. I’ve been called an apologist and an accomodationist. People ask “why do you even want to go to church”, but I don’t think many listen to my answer.
Look. I share their lack of belief. THERE IS NO GOD. I’ll use the word atheist. I am atheist. I’m not sure what the big deal is about anything else. Why do they care how I live my life or what I value or where I find joy?
My last post was the “accomodationist” side of me being whiny about not fitting in, but I just don’t get why I can't fit in with the atheists. Since I’ve been more out and active as an atheist, I’ve basically been met with criticism from the atheists (while in the midst of my pro-atheist fervor, my congregation has asked me to serve on the board of trustees.)
As I become more familiar with the atheist activists, I’m not really liking how harsh they can seem when they disagree. For all their love of “freethinking”, they seem quick to judge people with different ideas. I hope that someday, we can all say atheist, and it won’t matter what we believe, and we will all be treated with worth and dignity and respect. I hope the atheist activists acknowledge that atheists are diverse.
So, after trying the activist thing, I’m feeling less interested in joining their ranks. So it is weird to me to be saying I’m going to back down a bit with the atheist stuff, and it’s not because of any response I’m getting from Christians, or my family, or community, or friends. It’s because of the atheists.
I realize I've made a lot of sweeping generalizations, and I shouldn't judge the whole lot of them based on my initial impressions of a few. I have met lots of friendly atheists, and ones who seem accepting of my love of my church (and not just those at my church). I'm just feeling irritated right now. I'll get over it and keep trying to build bridges soon. I think I just need a little break.
I saw oppression and injustice. Death threats against Jessica Ahlquist. Public polls saying people won’t vote for an atheist, people saying rapists are most likely to be atheist, hateful rhetoric, discrimination in the Boy Scouts and the military.
I’ve been atheist for twenty years. I haven’t hidden it, but I haven’t gone around announcing it either. The atheist activists had me convinced that it was time for people like me to speak up, to join the ranks, take a stand, and make a difference.
I started saying it more, posting facebook posts and Tweets and talking about it at church. I lost some friends. Some family relationships are strained. A woman in my community started talking badly about me to my coworkers and parents of my students. My resolve grew stronger. Now I was experiencing firsthand this atheophobia. “THIS. THIS is why we need to come out”, I thought.
I tried to be even more active. I started talking up the Reason Rally, trying to recruit people from my church to go. I painted A’s on my toes.
I went to the Reason Rally and made my photos public on Facebook. I loved the swelling of pride and feeling like we were swelling in numbers after this national event. I posted my picture on Facebook for “Ask an Atheist Day”, and had a conversation with over 150 comments.
I have dabbled in trying to join atheist discussions on blogs and message boards, and inevitably, that other aspect of my religious identity comes up. The UU part. The accepting part, the part that is not willing to “ridicule with contempt”, the part that still wants to see the good aspects of religions and the good people who practice them, the part that believes interfaith dialogue is essential in the world we live in today.
You know what? I feel less than welcome sometimes with the atheist activists. I’ve been called an apologist and an accomodationist. People ask “why do you even want to go to church”, but I don’t think many listen to my answer.
Look. I share their lack of belief. THERE IS NO GOD. I’ll use the word atheist. I am atheist. I’m not sure what the big deal is about anything else. Why do they care how I live my life or what I value or where I find joy?
My last post was the “accomodationist” side of me being whiny about not fitting in, but I just don’t get why I can't fit in with the atheists. Since I’ve been more out and active as an atheist, I’ve basically been met with criticism from the atheists (while in the midst of my pro-atheist fervor, my congregation has asked me to serve on the board of trustees.)
As I become more familiar with the atheist activists, I’m not really liking how harsh they can seem when they disagree. For all their love of “freethinking”, they seem quick to judge people with different ideas. I hope that someday, we can all say atheist, and it won’t matter what we believe, and we will all be treated with worth and dignity and respect. I hope the atheist activists acknowledge that atheists are diverse.
So, after trying the activist thing, I’m feeling less interested in joining their ranks. So it is weird to me to be saying I’m going to back down a bit with the atheist stuff, and it’s not because of any response I’m getting from Christians, or my family, or community, or friends. It’s because of the atheists.
I realize I've made a lot of sweeping generalizations, and I shouldn't judge the whole lot of them based on my initial impressions of a few. I have met lots of friendly atheists, and ones who seem accepting of my love of my church (and not just those at my church). I'm just feeling irritated right now. I'll get over it and keep trying to build bridges soon. I think I just need a little break.
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
"Sometimes I feel a bit different than some of my friends"
I have early and intense memories of thinking very differently than those around me, often even in opposition to what adults told me. I now recognize these instances as the early formation of what I would now call morals. Some of these, I think would be understood by almost everyone. For instance, when I was staying with my great-grandma and went across the street to play in the schoolyard with children in her neighborhood, and returned to her waiting on the porch with a pink basin of water and a bar of Ivory soap, I KNEW that there was something very very wrong with her insistence that I wash up before coming in the house after playing with "those colored children".
Some of these instances may be less universal. I remember learning where meat comes from and instantly knowing I would never eat meat again. For several months, I spent evening after evening sitting at the dinner table for hours, not being allowed to get up until I cleaned my plate. I would cry myself to sleep at the table many times before my parents let me be a vegetarian.
In grade school, I had a couple close friends but I never fit in. Very early in high school, I got "saved" and became a Bible-carrying Jesus freak. By the time I graduated I had rejected that religion, but instead of going to college, I got married and became a young mother- a young mother who used cloth diapers, and didn't do Santa Claus, and modeled for figure drawing classes for extra cash.
Basically, I'm trying to paint a picture of how I have never fit in. I manage to be an outsider in almost every group to which I belong. Maybe "outsider" is too strong of a word. I'd rather say I'm a bit different. Even now, in my little conservative community, I'm different for being an atheist. I notice that among atheists, I'm different for embracing a religion.
There is one place where I never feel like an outsider, and that is church. It is my place where I can come as I am, believe what I want, speak my heart and mind, even disagree with people, and I know I will be welcomed. I love this song, "Quiet" from Matilda. The beginning takes me back to my childhood, being so different, and adults shouting, and the TV blaring, and my head spinning. I think It took me a long time to find my "quiet", but now I have. My church is my "quiet".
Some of these instances may be less universal. I remember learning where meat comes from and instantly knowing I would never eat meat again. For several months, I spent evening after evening sitting at the dinner table for hours, not being allowed to get up until I cleaned my plate. I would cry myself to sleep at the table many times before my parents let me be a vegetarian.
In grade school, I had a couple close friends but I never fit in. Very early in high school, I got "saved" and became a Bible-carrying Jesus freak. By the time I graduated I had rejected that religion, but instead of going to college, I got married and became a young mother- a young mother who used cloth diapers, and didn't do Santa Claus, and modeled for figure drawing classes for extra cash.
Basically, I'm trying to paint a picture of how I have never fit in. I manage to be an outsider in almost every group to which I belong. Maybe "outsider" is too strong of a word. I'd rather say I'm a bit different. Even now, in my little conservative community, I'm different for being an atheist. I notice that among atheists, I'm different for embracing a religion.
There is one place where I never feel like an outsider, and that is church. It is my place where I can come as I am, believe what I want, speak my heart and mind, even disagree with people, and I know I will be welcomed. I love this song, "Quiet" from Matilda. The beginning takes me back to my childhood, being so different, and adults shouting, and the TV blaring, and my head spinning. I think It took me a long time to find my "quiet", but now I have. My church is my "quiet".
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